This is Why You Can’t Sleep & What You Can Do About It
Chances are you’ve already dealt with all the obvious blocks stopping you from sleeping. You’ve stopped having coffee after a certain time, done the warm bath thing, and if you’re really onto it, kept away from screens and your phone right before bed.
But quite frankly, we shouldn’t need lifehacks for sleeping. It’s like learning “one simple trick” to breath. It should just come naturally. Instead of forcing complexe routines on your bedtime, simplify it down. We don’t need apps for this.
You may make the mistake of using a lifehack style habit to try and help you sleep, such as counting sheep, irregular sleep timing, medication, or getting completely smashed on alcohol to send you off. In the end this just makes things worse, and also you have a problem. You’re family is worried about you. Stop drinking so much. We love you.
Things you can do to wind down for the night include usual night time stuff, like having a milo, brushing your teeth and prepping for tomorrow. Chat to your partner in bed, for the first time all day. Also try removing the clock so you can’t stare at it, counting how many hours you have to sleep. It’ll just stress you out.
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT is a psychological intervention that uses acceptance and mindfulness strategies. It has been proven by many studies to help those who struggle with sleep.
Using ACT, you need to:
- Accept the things you cannot change.
- Change the things you can.
- Understand the difference.
Stop fighting your anxiety, see them for what they are. Describe to yourself what they are and then visualise them in a space in your head.
You need to learn that you can’t control the thoughts that pop up in your head, but you can control how you choose to respond to them.